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Post by xpeerynceme on Apr 21, 2006 0:00:30 GMT -5
I put this under interests because I am curious as to what interests folks have when it comes to someone getting to know you. Do you tell them everything or do you like them to discover you (which would also let you know how interested they are in you)? To answer my own question. I don't mind questions, but I gauge someone's interest in me on how much info they retain and info they find out without asking me. Most times, if you pay attention to someone genuinely...you will learn a lot. I love when someone does that. It makes you go: "Whoa, how the heck did she remember that" or "wow...  that is so cool they have discovered that about me." What is your take ladies? |
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Post by yogini on Apr 21, 2006 11:37:18 GMT -5
I like the discovery process. Getting to know a person a little at a time leaves you wanting to know more and it sparks the desire to spend more time with that person. It adds some spice to the mix and gives you time to really get to know and (hopefully) like one another.
But you do have to ask some questions I guess in the beginning. I think that conversations about things that matter to each person would reveal more than general questions would, if like you say the person is observant.
I think it's sweet when a woman remembers things I told her 5 months ago about myself.
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Post by xpeerynceme on Apr 27, 2006 5:53:44 GMT -5
I think it's even more sweet when someone likes things like that.
Some folks are not into what you are into and it goes beyond just having differences to make the whatevership exciting.
Things like a woman liking to be romanced or a woman that likes to receive love letters...whatever...what sense would it make if she is involved or getting to know someone that is not into that?
So I said all that to say, I think finding out those things are important early on. Asking questions are needed and at the same time just taking a part in active listening (even when there is nothing being said), you will learn so much about another person.
That discovery is amazing. People don't appreciate the significance in that discovery process these days. It's such a beautiful thing!
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Post by teaster69 on Jun 12, 2006 21:17:09 GMT -5
Hello, can I join in on this topic. I love getting to know new people. I can usually tell a lot about a person by just spending a little time with them. I enjoy talking so much that I usually end up telling more about myself than I probably should. I love when a woman notice things like, the perfume your wearing, your smile or the fact you are just shy around them. If they are paying attention, they should be able to pick up on things like that. I agree with both you & yogini, sometimes you have to ask questions & sometimes you should sit back & let them discover who you are.
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Post by xpeerynceme on Jun 12, 2006 21:22:31 GMT -5
yeah, it's a fun process! I love the discovery! What have been some of your positive experiences teaster69?
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Post by xpeerynceme on Jun 13, 2006 11:36:26 GMT -5
Oh yeah...I think the coolest thing is seeing your new interest around their friends...seeing how they interact and whatnot. That can say a lot as to where or if you even fit in the whole scenario. Dating is cool though. You have to be very obsevant and attentive to things. It all helps in finding out if this person is right for you or not. Best thing to do is have some FUN!!!
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Post by teaster69 on Jun 13, 2006 11:41:23 GMT -5
Well xpeerynceme, this is my second relationship with a woman. My first one lasted 12 yrs and this one just a little over a yr. My first relationship wasn't positive at all & it shouldn't have lasted 12 days. At that time we both didn't identify ourselves as lesbians so it was hard.
I don't know if I quite know how to answer the question xpeerynceme. I love the way a woman makes me feel when I'm in her presence. When the conversation just flows and you never run out of things to say even though you just met. If you can laugh and enjoy each others company then you are on to a good start. The relationship I'm in now went just like that. Did I do ok?
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Post by xpeerynceme on Jun 14, 2006 2:15:19 GMT -5
 , That was great! It is good that you still value things like that when it comes to being with someone. Many people lose that somewhere in the ruckus of it all. But everyone is not interested in the same things either. May your relationship continue to flourish! When it's real, it's such a beautiful thing.
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Post by Equilla on Jul 5, 2006 13:22:07 GMT -5
Hmm, getting to know you, Being up front with someone, being yourself the worst thing anyone could do is not let the person of interest not know the real you. It's like a scary awakening to find out that person you long to talk to is NOT the person you wanted to get to know!
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that is so cool they have discovered that about me."
, That was great! It is good that you still value things like that when it comes to being with someone. Many people lose that somewhere in the ruckus of it all. But everyone is not interested in the same things either.